Being Married and Finding the Right Partner
I enjoy being married. I know at one point in my life I had told my friends that if I ever mentioned marriage they had my permission to put a bullet in my head, but that was before I met my wife. I can honestly say that being married is a blast and the best decision I ever made. I'm content knowing that I have someone who I truly love and loves me back, warts and all, and that I won't be spending my later years at the neighborhood bar sipping a beer with a big pot belly hanging over my belt talking about the good ol' days with a bunch of cynical old men.
Thank God for that.
Finding the right person isn't difficult, if you keep your eyes open, do your homework and take things slowly. These are some of the things that you should be observing when courting someone who seems like they would be good marriage material.
1. Does she want to be with you because she cares about you, or because you drive a nice car or have a lot of material possessions? Most guys with half a brain can feel this instinctively.
2. What is her family like? Does dysfunction hold everybody together? What is her mom like? With time a spouse often begins to mimic her mother in some ways. Is that something you could handle? How does she treat her husband and visa versa?
3. Is she your best friend? If you can't sit on the sofa, holding hands watching T.V. and enjoy the experience, you are with the wrong person. Before anything, a man and a woman have to be best friends.
4. Is she spiritually centered? A woman who is spiritually solid tends to have more attributes that are important in maintaining a strong marriage. Also, there is nothing more wonderful than praying together with your spouse. Keeping close spiritually helps in all the other areas of the relationship. It's the mortar that keeps everything together.
5. Does she have a great sense of humor? All marriages have their rough patches. If your wife can't laugh at herself or at the predicaments you might find yourselves in sometimes, it will be difficult , if not impossible, to whether the storms that invariably couples find themselves in.
There is a saying that goes, "When you are courting someone, keep your eyes completely open and once you are married keep them half closed." In other words, check things out thoroughly before making a commitment. Watch out for the Red Warning Flags. Listen to your gut. Don't mistake lust for love. Once you make the commitment, learn to let the small things go. Pick your battles. If you feel like you just can't stand your spouse for another minute, look at her and remember why you married her in the first place. This will help extinguish the negative emotion you are presently feeling.
Lastly, never yell, call your spouse a nasty name, or do something else that would be considered disrespectful. Once you have lost respect for each other it's all down hill from there.
Nurture each other. Ask yourself if what you are going to say or do will have a negative effect on your spouse. Think before you act. Put her needs ahead of hers. If she is a keeper, she will respond in kind.
Do the above and you won't be the guy at the bar nursing his beer and coming home to an empty house.
Thank God for that.
Finding the right person isn't difficult, if you keep your eyes open, do your homework and take things slowly. These are some of the things that you should be observing when courting someone who seems like they would be good marriage material.
1. Does she want to be with you because she cares about you, or because you drive a nice car or have a lot of material possessions? Most guys with half a brain can feel this instinctively.
2. What is her family like? Does dysfunction hold everybody together? What is her mom like? With time a spouse often begins to mimic her mother in some ways. Is that something you could handle? How does she treat her husband and visa versa?
3. Is she your best friend? If you can't sit on the sofa, holding hands watching T.V. and enjoy the experience, you are with the wrong person. Before anything, a man and a woman have to be best friends.
4. Is she spiritually centered? A woman who is spiritually solid tends to have more attributes that are important in maintaining a strong marriage. Also, there is nothing more wonderful than praying together with your spouse. Keeping close spiritually helps in all the other areas of the relationship. It's the mortar that keeps everything together.
5. Does she have a great sense of humor? All marriages have their rough patches. If your wife can't laugh at herself or at the predicaments you might find yourselves in sometimes, it will be difficult , if not impossible, to whether the storms that invariably couples find themselves in.
There is a saying that goes, "When you are courting someone, keep your eyes completely open and once you are married keep them half closed." In other words, check things out thoroughly before making a commitment. Watch out for the Red Warning Flags. Listen to your gut. Don't mistake lust for love. Once you make the commitment, learn to let the small things go. Pick your battles. If you feel like you just can't stand your spouse for another minute, look at her and remember why you married her in the first place. This will help extinguish the negative emotion you are presently feeling.
Lastly, never yell, call your spouse a nasty name, or do something else that would be considered disrespectful. Once you have lost respect for each other it's all down hill from there.
Nurture each other. Ask yourself if what you are going to say or do will have a negative effect on your spouse. Think before you act. Put her needs ahead of hers. If she is a keeper, she will respond in kind.
Do the above and you won't be the guy at the bar nursing his beer and coming home to an empty house.
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